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Ashly Jun 19, 2014

I found out about this on Tumblr because a warning went up about the site in question stealing images from Deviant Art accounts.  I went to check just in case and lo and behold, they'd lifted a bunch of stuff from my Buzznet galleries, including a few of my concert shots.

To make matters worse, the site in question is a pretty nasty porn site.  So even if I wasn't protective of my images, this would bother the shit out of me.  DNW my concert photos displayed alongside and apparently in promotion of the porn featured on this site.

It's entirely possible they've done the same to other Buzznet users.  I'm going to C&P the entire information post from Shensation on Tumblr because it pretty much covers everything (though it specifically states Deviant Art it also applies to Buzznet, obvs.):

there is a creepy porn website raiding Deviantart and posting people’s art without their permission alongside pornographic images. It is doing this to be constantly updating and stay on top of search engines. Luckily they also credit the artists so it is easy to find out if you are on there.

Go here:

(watch out, it is nsfw)

are you on there? I’m sorry. That sucks. 

This lovely person has put together a template on what you can do in this situation to get your artwork off the site. From what I hear, it is successful.

I am on there, and several of my friends. It looks like half of Deviantart is on there. But I sent them an e-mail so hopefully I will not be there long.

Please spread this around so other artists can be warned.

The tutorial from Deviant Art includes a C&D letter you can send to have your photos removed from the website.

If you have accounts on BOTH Buzznet and Deviant Art, which I'm sure many people do, PLEASE make sure you check or, because this IS an adult site and I'm not going to immediately direct minors there, have someone of legal age check for you.

I HOPE THIS HELPS!  Sorry for all of this, it supremely sucks and I hope we're all able to get it taken care of ASAP.

Also, seconding the plea at the end of Shen's Tumblr post: PLEASE spread the word around and let others know about this.


Ashly Mar 23, 2013

They were a BAND.  Maybe they were your favorite band, maybe they were the first band that meant something to you, but they were just a band.  YES, even if you think they "saved your life."

It sucks that we're not getting anymore music, but seriously, put DOWN the hemlock smoothies.  And if they were SERIOUSLY all you were living for, get yourself some goddamn help.  If a band breaking up makes you THAT miserable, that band didn't save your life, you were clinging to them for life support.  Life support is temporary, kids.  It's not supposed to keep you going forever.

I'm upset we won't see where they were headed after the Killjoys album, but seriously.  Therapy.  It's a thing.

What the actual hell

Ashly Jan 31, 2013


This new look on you.

I just.

I just can't. 

It's like I don't even KNOW YOU ANYMORE.  What, so now you've got a new font and shit and you're all popular?  Did you have an awesome party?  Was it an awesome time?  Did you drink awesome shooters? 

You're a mean girl, Buzznet, you're a bitch.

A Girl's Guide to Being Friends With Girls: We're Moving!

Ashly Feb 03, 2012

Yep, that's right!  A Girl's Guide to Being Friends With Girls has moved!  The column will now run exclusively on a Wordpress blog.

The update schedule will remain the same and we'll be getting set-up to take questions over there ASAP. 

Come join us!  You know you wanna.

Shaun White Appreciation Post

Ashly Jan 30, 2012

Last night at the 2012 Winter X-Games, Shaun White made history: he became the first athlete ever to five-peat in Snowboard Superpipe.  Oh, and he did that with another first: White's victory lap run scored him a perfect 100, the first time that's ever happened in any Winter X-Games event.

Oh, right.  And this was coming off of an ankle injury that kept him from competing in Slopestyle.

And so, I present a Shaun White appreciation post.  Here is Shaun White.  Appreciate him.

A Girl's Guide To Being Friends With Girls: Promiscuosityism

Ashly Jan 27, 2012

What do you consider "promiscuous?"

By that, I mean, at what point does a girl go from having a normal amount of sex to being promiscuous?  What number qualifies her for that title?

Guess what: there is no answer to that question.  Oh, there might be a personal definition that differs from person to person, but there's nothing universal.  Some people might think 10 or more people makes you promiscuous.  Some might think it's more than 2.  And there's some people that are going to say if you have sex with anyone before you're married, you're promiscuous.

Makes it a little confusing, huh?

So then, why the hell does the world teach us girls to attack each other (and sometimes ourselves) over our perceptions of promiscuity? 

I don't know,  But I know it sucks.

Why Does Everyone Care About Your Lady Business?

There are a lot of places that put a lot of emphasis on virginity and purity, as if it is all a girl is worth. 

There are a lot of places that put a lot of emphasis on being sexy/sexual, as if your willingness to have sex is all you are worth.

You are being sent these messages at the exact same time. 

I do not blame you if you feel confused.

I've talked about this in other places, but I want to address it directly in this column: your virginity is YOUR VIRGINITY.  You wanna keep it?  Keep it.  There's nothing wrong with that.  You wanna lose it?  Be safe about it.  There's also nothing wrong with that.  You are the only one who gets to decide how important it is to you. 

And that's TO YOU.  Nobody else's sex life is your business.  Real or perceived.

Perception Versus Reality

Someone being sexy doesn't mean they're having sex.

Pretty simple, right?  Except for the part where we tend to associate one with the other automatically.  Girl wearing something that shows off her cleavage or legs?  Slut.  Girl confidently talking with a group of guys?  Whore.  Girl taking sexy pictures of herself?  Slutty Slut Slut Slut.  Girl dating a guy you're into?  Hobag.

It's not really our fault.  Like I always try to point out, that's the message we're sent. Boys want girls who act sexy!  But they won't want girls who give it away too easily, and those are girls who act/dress sexy!  You need boys to like you!

You can chase the circular logic all you want.  It will never make sense. So what do you do?

What You Do

You stop calling other girls "sluts" and "whores."  Just stop it.  I don't care if, in your opinion, they are sleeping with "too many" people.  That's not your call to make.

Besides, you need to realize that promiscuity isn't a bad thing.  It's not for everyone, obviously, and I am going to stress AGAIN the importance of safe sex.  But just because someone else enjoys having sex with a lot of different partners doesn't affect you.  You have sex with who you want to have sex with (or don't have sex) and let them do as they will. 

And as always, keep away from generalizations.  Not "all girls" are one way or another.  Be yourself, recognize that other girls are being themselves and go with that.

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Mark Hoppus Is Already Writing New Blink-182 Music

Ashly Jan 26, 2012

Blink-182 fans, have no fear.  You will not have to suffer another 8-year span between albums.

Because while Blink's Neighborhoods only released last September, Mark Hoppus has revealed in an interview that he is writing new music for Blink-182.  And ONLY for Blink-182.  Well, with the exception of one-off projects like his collaboration with Pete Wentz for the Almost Alice album, but the point remains.

So, what kind of sound could we expect from these?  39-year-old Hoppus says it's too soon to tell.  "At the moment all I've got is a bunch of chord progressions and ideas. It's more me playing my guitar and coming up with little ideas and melodies. By the time it goes to Tom and Travis and we work on it as a band, who knows what it will sound like."

In the meantime, Blink will be hitting the road this summer in Europe alongside the All-American Rejects, Four Year Strong and more.

Hopeless Records Wants To Give You Free Music For Valentine's Day

Ashly Jan 25, 2012

We're only a few weeks away from Valentine's Day, and you know what that means: mushy cards, heart-shaped boxes of chocolate and plenty of advertising designed to make single people insecure over our singlehood.

Well, to make it all suck a little less, Hopeless Records is currently offering a free compliation for your downloading pleasure. And even better, it features bands like There For Tomorrow, Enter Shikari, The Used, We Are The In Crowd and, yep, Yellowcard.  Here's the full track listing:

1.     “Sing For Me” - Yellowcard
2.     “Exits and Entrances” - We Are The In Crowd
3.     “Hoodie Weather” - The Wonder Years
4.     “Sssnakepit” - Enter Shikari
5.     “I Come Alive” - The Used
6.     “Forget Your Heart” - Silverstein
7.     “Siren” - The Dangerous Summer
8.     “Face To Face” - Divided By Friday
9.     “The Joyride” - There For Tomorrow
10.    “Dead” - Samiam from “Trips”
11.    “Let My Love” - Damion Suomi & The Minor Prophets
12.    “Useless” - Anarbor
13.    “Some Things” - For The Foxes

You can download the 13 track album for free over on Facebook.

Want more V-day music?  Check out my playlists from last year, featuring music for singles, the scorned, a little wink-wink-nudge-nudge and genuine romantics.

Has Jay-Z Really Sworn Off Using The Word B*tch?

Ashly Jan 17, 2012

With the birth of their daughter Blue Ivy, proud parents Jay-Z and Beyonce are in for some major life changes.

But one of those changes may have nothing to do with diaper duty and sleepless nights.  A poem is circulating the internet, supposedly written by 42-year-old Jay-Z, stating that he will no longer use the word "bitch" in his music because of his daughter (who he's already "recorded" a song with, FYI).

The poem states that while Hova may have been okay with using the word previously, his daughter has given him a new perspective: "No man will degrade her, or call her name. I'm so focused on your future, the degradation has passed. I wish you wealth, health and insight. Forever young you may pass. Blue Ivy Carter, my angel."

Interesting?  Yes.  True?  Well...jury's out.  Remember, question EVERYTHING you find on the internet.

See, the poem hasn't actually appeared on anything officially tied to Jay-Z and he hasn't stepped forward to take credit for it.  Basically, this could be a huge hoax...that's managed to fool NME.

What do you guys think?  Hoax or not?

My Chemical Romance's Mikey Way and Ray Toro Get Ready To Rumble

Ashly Jan 17, 2012

Okay, okay.  So they won't actually be stepping into a wrestling ring, but last night Mikey Way and Ray Toro of My Chemical Romance were spotted in the audience at WWE RAW.

Mikey, 31, and Ray, 34, had prime seating right behind the annoucers table (for an idea of how close to the ring this is, check out the picture Mikey tweeted of WWE Superstar John Cena).  This means that they not only got a great view of the in-ring action, it ALSO means that they popped up on camera a few times.  But their best moment of the night?  Had to have been when they were shaking hands with Chris Jericho (a rockstar in his own right, check out Xander's badass interivew with the Ayatollah of Rock and Rolla).  And luckily, I have some low-quality screen caps. 

Just what you've always wanted, right?


The guys are both excited to see Jericho's in-ring return (which turned out...interesting to say the least, as fans will attest).


Ray goes in for the handshake and proves that you're never too old or too famous to mark out (marking out is basically reacting like something in wrestling is real, even though you know it's fake.  Trust me, there's an entire language to pro-wrestling).


Ray ALSO goes for the backpat


And then sticks out his tongue.  I don't know why.


Oh, and they weren't the only celebs at RAW that night.  See that bald guy?


That's Mr. Belding from Saved by the Bell.  I kid you not.  He's a huge wrestling fan.

Mikey and Ray were likely enjoying some downtime before the band is set to head into the studio to record a new albumWITHOUT giving us that final Killjoys video.  Yes, I will keep bringing that point up and you can't stop me.  Even WITH a steel chair.


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Graduated from the University of Pittsburgh in 2005. BA in English Writing, concentration in fiction. Which means I'm qualified to do mind numbing office work. I'm also a leather clad crime fighter at night, but you'll have to take my word for it.

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alternative rock, beer, final fantasy, knitting, novels, pirates, reading, rock and roll, rum, soul calibur, tattoos, video games, wine, writing, ya novels, poetry, comics, batman

Favorite Music:

Amanda Palmer, Emilie Autumn, Fall Out Boy, My Chemical Romance, Panic at the Disco, The Dresden Dolls

Favorite Movies:

Blue Crush, Fight Club, Hackers, The Lost Boys

Favorite TV Shows:

Arrested Development, Buffy, Cowboy Bebop, Firefly, Moral Orel, Revolutionary Girl Utena, The Daily Show, The Venture Brothers

Favorite Books:

1984, Beige, Harry Potter, House of Leaves, Lost Souls, Neuromancer, The Handmaids Tale, The Secret Circle Trilogy, The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau Banks, The Thirteenth Tale, We Have Always Lived in the Castle